This is how to stay safe on a first date gone wrong

Dating is somewhat of a game - you win some, you lose some. Sometimes you hit it off from the start, and other times the match is a total mistake. On the unfortunate pairings, the time seems to drag by and you’ll probably spend your time conceiving a plan to escape from the uncomfortable situation.

While dates like these may be harmless, they can also go south in a matter of minutes. If your date is edging on the aggressive side, it’s no longer just an awkward situation - it’s a dangerous one. The best action plan here is to safely and calmly remove yourself, though that’s easier said than done.

Luckily, if you’re on a date at a bar you can likely turn to a bartender to help you out without making a scene. Bartenders not only pour us the perfect concoctions and listen to rants about our significant others, they can also serve as guardian angels - truly they don’t get paid enough.

The Angel Shot

Ordering an angel shot will discreetly signal to the bar staff that you’re in need of help. Rather than pouring you a shot to ease your first date jitters, the bartender will take an action to take care of you. While this secret code was famously introduced by a bar in St. Petersburg, Florida, many bars across the globe have since followed the lead adding the ‘angel shot’ to the menu. This has become a sort of universal code that the bartender will likely get the reference, even if it’s not a local specialty.

Variations to Know

Depending on where you are, ordering a variation of an angel shot will signal the bartender to take a specific action. For example, at one restaurant a neat or straight up angel shot will get you an escort to your vehicle, an angel shot with ice will warrant an Uber or Lyft on your behalf, or an angel shot with a lime or a twist will alert the police.

Other common variations have offered the opportunity to speak to management, call a friend or family, or express concern for a potentially spiked drink.

Where to Look

These codes can be complicated and hard to remember, especially when you’re concerned that your safety may be at risk. However, many bars offering this service will post instructions if you need help in a discreet location in the women's restroom or on their social media - consider looking into it before selecting a date location and opting for somewhere you’re familiar with the policy.

The bottom line of dating is that safety is a priority. Don’t get overly intoxicated on a first date so that you can always be in control of the situation if need be. First dates may not always be with the person you’re expecting, especially when their profile led you to believe they were something they aren’t. It’s better to be safe than sorry when it comes to first dates, so always tell a friend or family where you’re going and when to expect you home, and know the safety precautions offered by the location of your date if they have them.